Ugh. This question keeps me up at night. I’ve spent/wasted so much effort and hate in vain begging for justice in my brain that I drive myself insane. And, why. Focusing on it just makes me want to cry … and they don’t care. Im not as far along on this journey as I’d like but I sincerely appreciate your perspective and I hope good things happen to you and you live a full and interesting life xoxox
This is inspiring because I’m also dealing with the pain of watching an ex thrive while I’ve had to work hard to just survive. Would it be easier if I just blocked them? Closure/forgiveness conversation? I’m desperate at this point
When I went through that I had to block them and mute mutual friends and just move on with life as if they didn’t exist. It’s really hard to have a front row to someone’s life you’re no longer a part of. At least in the beginning.
Thanks I’ll try this. He just had a baby with his fiancé so I’ve been rattled and searching for community and reads that speak to my current experience. When did it get better for you, if at all? I picked up unresolved bitterness masquerading as self affirmation in your post, and related way too hard. When does the healing become real?
For me it never really got better it just got bearable. I still get little flashes from those days that fill me with anger. It took a while (realistically I’m talking years) for it to become something I just mentally acknowledge in passing. Stuff like that can really change a person. But the healing does come and I think it becomes real when you recognize that there are more days ahead than there are behind and it’s not worth carrying that weight any longer than necessary.
“It never really got better” is real but anxiety inducing since it probably hasn’t been as long for me as it is for you. At least your ex is only doing well professionally and probably going through life and people searching for you. Mine permanently replaced me and really moved on emotionally so I’m gutted on the daily.
Ugh. This question keeps me up at night. I’ve spent/wasted so much effort and hate in vain begging for justice in my brain that I drive myself insane. And, why. Focusing on it just makes me want to cry … and they don’t care. Im not as far along on this journey as I’d like but I sincerely appreciate your perspective and I hope good things happen to you and you live a full and interesting life xoxox
Thank you and same to you. We’ll definitely get there.
This is inspiring because I’m also dealing with the pain of watching an ex thrive while I’ve had to work hard to just survive. Would it be easier if I just blocked them? Closure/forgiveness conversation? I’m desperate at this point
When I went through that I had to block them and mute mutual friends and just move on with life as if they didn’t exist. It’s really hard to have a front row to someone’s life you’re no longer a part of. At least in the beginning.
Thanks I’ll try this. He just had a baby with his fiancé so I’ve been rattled and searching for community and reads that speak to my current experience. When did it get better for you, if at all? I picked up unresolved bitterness masquerading as self affirmation in your post, and related way too hard. When does the healing become real?
For me it never really got better it just got bearable. I still get little flashes from those days that fill me with anger. It took a while (realistically I’m talking years) for it to become something I just mentally acknowledge in passing. Stuff like that can really change a person. But the healing does come and I think it becomes real when you recognize that there are more days ahead than there are behind and it’s not worth carrying that weight any longer than necessary.
“It never really got better” is real but anxiety inducing since it probably hasn’t been as long for me as it is for you. At least your ex is only doing well professionally and probably going through life and people searching for you. Mine permanently replaced me and really moved on emotionally so I’m gutted on the daily.